What is important for you at a first date?

What is this "first date" about? In our thoughts below we talk about a date with somebody you intend to get to know deeper, a potential life partner. We never had an interest in less than that when dating - no ONS, no superficial flings, no "friends with benefits" etc.

We met almost exactly as the entry posting described... in a wine bar. And the first date was set quickly.

A simple rule in life says: you never get a second chance to make a first impression. Follow this, and you will be fine. If you find out that you are no match, take it as it is.

Both Mrs. ZeeTee and I do share tons of things - a date was always a time to get to know each other on different levels. Honest, authentic, deep. Nothing superficial.

Be yourself. Talk honestly and openly.

Do not act. Be authentic. And most of all: have fun!

If there is a connection, we have no need to pay special attention to specific details. If there is no chemistry, be honest about it.

Too many people start partnerships despite being fully aware that they are not really a match. The Joyclub forum is filled with threads started by unhappy people who were dishonest from the very beginning, but they preferred to not be alone rather than waiting for a good match.

If there is a connection, we both looked for things we share: hobbys, sports/health, style, cultural interests, similar background, similar lifestyle, similar life goals, similar feelings about closeness and sexuality - in other words: compatibility in life and in the bed. Chemistry decides, it is as simple as that.

Definitely public. If there is no connection, it is much easier to pull out.

Yet, this is nothing but our very own view on things. Very personal.

It’s pretty simple, there is either chemistry or not. If you’ve made it far enough to establish a first date with me, you’ve already tickled my fancy in some way.

I think the most important thing is not to have any expectations. To be open for the person you are about to meet, and to be yourself. No playacting. And: never complain about your ex! Very bad style.

My first date?Hmmm, I did not think much of it, I even forgot about it, until he called to inform me that he was at the restaurant waiting, thank God, the restaurant was not far from my home...And when I got there, he was waiting at the entrance to welcome me...That really tripped me! We got along so easily...We like the food,
all discussions were perfect...
My weapon for a first date, be yourself, and enjoy the company, if it doesnt fit, it is not the end of the world!

Good smile and respect, i think most people have to high expectations. The person should be to tense 😅.