People have already responded to you in previous threads about clubs. As you must understand, which club or, for that matter, which night at which club, is relevant to what you are looking for. The nights as much as the club bring different tastes
it is really simple for you to find what you are seeking in Joyclub. Search events and look at who is attending and what they are into.
I do go to Avarus and Insomnia, but I don't go to nights when AVARUS has gang bang of Pick the guys, but maybe that is exactly what you seek.
Swingeroase has different things on different nights also.
Frivole, I personally hate, maybe perfect for you and you need to look at the event and type of people that goes to the events. it maybe your ideal place.
Templeoase is probably ideal for what you are seeking as they have higher numbers of people but you need to look at the events for each night and who goes. Personally I don't like the venue as I don't find it a little rundown and was not as clean as Avarus when I went there. People looking for quantity maybe care less about such things and that is fine.
I clearly don't seek what you seek. I need a connection and if it is a choice between a large quantity of cold fucking or a coffee, I will take the coffee anytime. The great thing is we are all different and I wish you the best and a fun time...