Kinky Responsible's club

Happy birthday! Any type of massage is suitable for relaxation. Light music. Or soak in a warm bubble bath.

Happy birtday 🎉 Massage is the best way to relax

I would say everyone can be different but
in your particular situation my guess is that the conversation was not adequate enough to relax, meaning the subjects and wording didn't really make your mind go elsewhere, which I believe it can.

On a sidenote, using my marketing professional skills here, we have a creative side of the brain and a rational side. If you stimulate one, the other will go more dormant. This is why there is music and scents in stores, so your senses keep getting triggered and your rationale (the part that prevents you from spending money recklessly...) falls behind. So it's more likely that you'll spend money. Jumping to your situation, if the conversation is not pulling towards your creative side, then yes, rational steps in (which for most people is our working tool, so we unconsciously enter in 'work mode') and it's not easy to relax/cum.
Proposed solution: find what triggers your creativeness. Easy way is music and movies but do explore and tell us.

For me, connection is essential. I need to feel a certain degree of trust with a partner in order to be able to let go and that tales time to establish. One-off, casual sexual encounters are rarely orgasmic for me on the first meeting.
If time is really of the essence then toys are efficient ways to achieve orgasm - I have heard a lot of good things about Tracy's Dog in particular, though I have never tried one.
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Obviously there are other toys and suppliers - I am not being paid any commission here 😏

I have a satysfier which will always procure an orgasm, but it is a very perfunctory, mechanical orgasm and not my favourite experience.

I still - and will always I think - feel that the best orgasms are those I share with a partner who I actually like as a person and who I have a connection with and have shared experience with over some time because we know each other's preferences.

But getting to that place, the journey of discovering each other through play and talk, is super fun. Maybe the CEOs could try being less goal oriented and results driven and just slow down, leave the orgasms aside for a while and just concentrate on enjoying the journey? 🤔

Me and my partners during all life felt that I’m very responsible with my acts with and o er them, taking in consideration that I always perform as Top, Dominant or Owner (depending on the person).

So… when you dont know enough your partner, you must be carefull a goong from less to more. Hurries are a bad mate.

After and within this stage, you both built the general frame with hard edges, and continue improving inside consensual.

THE BEST TIME TO KISS HER

When she's babbling on about something. When you're arguing. When you see her. When you're with her. When you're with your friends. When she cries. When shes happy. When she does something you love. After you ask her out. After she says she loves you. After you just kissed her. Before you leave. My point is, whenever you get the chance to kiss her, kiss her. It makes her feel loved.

I am way too much up in my head and to quote my husband "Creating Problems that don't exist" and then investing enormous amounts of emotional energy and self-created stress.

Being picked up by my nipples (yes me the big bad domme submits to my husband's stronger will often, though I must confess there is often a good deal of Dragged Kicking and Screaming into Paradise), the pain takes me out of my head and into a state of Be Here Now.

Now, I was "frigid-non-orgasmic" when I met him and he can trigger an orgasm in me in less than one minute.

I think younger people tend to be sitting there with some checklist wrapped up in consent - respect - negotiation blah blah blah on.

I find I can almost assure failure by having expectations and my negative self talk.

When I read your description, I did not think Responsible was the word as much as "Am I doing it right?" < see the checklist consent-negotiation-respect.

He is one of those super brain psychonauts who is sure he has no idea what to do each time he starts. Very little paint-by-numbers

Ambiance is number one for us: Music, lighting, erotic or provocative attire.

+ a joint can make things chill (of course if it’s legal in your country)