I is for Impact Play


Impact Play, also known as Spanking, is a common type of BDSM play. Impact play is all about the art of striking another for sexual gratification, and is a way of exploring your desire to inflict or receive pain (sadism or masochism). But why do we like pain?

From Sarah Butcher

Spanking isn’t for everyone, but for those who do enjoy the sensation, there is a scientific reason for it! Our pain and pleasure receptors in the brain are very close together, and the rush of endorphins that are released into the body when we are spanked, can translate as pleasurable to our brains. For others, it’s purely about the desire to submit to a partner and be dominated.

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And so Impact Play may be explored as a stand-alone act, purely for the physical sensations, or it may also be used as a form of punishment within power play dynamics, that feeds into other elements of BDSM such as Discipline, Dominance & Submission.

There are a variety of tools that can be used as part of impact play, each of which vary in terms of shape, size, sensation and intensity. For those looking to try impact play for the first time, you already have a fantastic tool that is very effective for spanking – your hand!

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So, how do you practice Impact Play safely? Well, there are a few do’s and don’ts when it comes to spanking that will ensure you’re getting the most pleasurable experience, check them out below:

Designate your safe zones

There are some clear safe and unsafe zones for impact on the body – the main zone that’s ideal for impact is the bum! It’s soft and fleshy and gives you plenty of surface area to play with. The cheeks and backs of the legs are the most common place to spank, and the safest too! Don’t go any higher than this though – the lower back area is particularly sensitive and you could do some damage – best to steer clear. The same goes for the genitals – while a light pussy spanking can be hot, we generally want to reserve these areas for different types of sensations.

Perhaps you enjoy the little reminder from your steamy session – the choice is yours!

It's also important to talk about marks. Everybody’s skin type is different, meaning the marks left on the skin from different tools and toys will vary. Make sure you ask your partner how they feel about marks, particularly bruises. While most impact will leave a red mark that quickly disappears after a session, some harder impact tools may leave bruises on the skin, which take a little longer to go away. If you’re off to the beach that weekend, perhaps you want to keep your skin free from marks, or perhaps you enjoy the little reminder from your steamy session – the choice is yours!

Warm up the area

Warming up the area before getting into the swing of things will allow the spankee to push their boundaries further when it comes to pain, and allows the spanker to gauge the spankees tolerance for pain. Start by lightly tapping the area with your hand to increase blood flow to the area, then build up to the harder strikes.

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Choose your toys

While a firm hand is all you really need, to push your boundaries even more there are a variety of different impact tools and toys to choose from that can really spice up your spanking sessions. Toys with wider surface areas such as paddles will deliver more of a "thuddy" sensation on the skin, and can be more versatile in terms of the range of intensity they can deliver, whereas toys with a smaller surface area such as whips and canes will deliver a "stingy" sensation on the skin and are generally rated at a much higher intensity level.

Whether you are brand spanking new to Impact Play or want to invest in a staple for your toy box, a flogger is a great entry level tool that can be used to taunt and tease your partner with its hard strikes and soft strokes.

Practice aftercare

As with any BDSM activity, aftercare should be non-negotiable. The spankee may enjoy some physical aftercare such as a hot bath or shower, some lotion or a massage to sooth the impacted areas, and not forgetting a debrief about what felt good and what you’d like to try more of next time. Have a spanking good time!

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