What Role Does 'Power' Play in Your Sex Life?

Firstly: Regarding analyses of sexual dynamics an American series wouldn't be my first go-to choice. Because ... America and their understanding of sex in gerneral (sex-education teaches "abstinence only" etc. ) and secondly ... it's an over-dramatic Hollywood-series ... soooo.

So, I will not assume, that sex is about power ... because then I wouldn't be able to contribute anything here.

I personally feel very strongly about sexual power imbalances. I can't have them or I will not be sexually aroused respectively sex wouldn't "work" for me. My sexuality needs a power balance to allow me to truely let loose. That's because if I sense so much as a hint of submission in my sexpartner, I immediately feel some kind of responsibility for the person and the situation and that makes it impossible for me to give up all control. If I feel dominance wanting to be applied on me I feel, that I have to remain conscious of my boundaries ... which also needs focus and therefore hinders me to get into a state of just feeling and not thinking.

IRL that doesn't make it easier to find a sexpartner ... just saying. Most people (for instance here in JOY) tend to associate themselves (of course on a broad scale of intensity) to one side or the other. And many men seem to think, that submission is somehow "natural" to women.

I of course accept other people and their preferences ... but it's not for me and it's not that easy to communicate my needs in that regard.

Sex can be a power play, if you want.

From a "natural" point of view, I dare say that things are slightly different - in a way that in the sum, it could be considered as a power play thing, yet it is not, philosophically imho: (in most cases) a man literally enters a woman, it is an intrusion - a natural process that should include consensus - and gone is the power play element.

I do prefer the natual element - that "tension", that erotic energy, the sexual attraction that is the most energetic physical and spiritual love language between Mr. ZeeTee and me.

I want to be "overwhelmed" by the wantonness, hotness, hornyiness that I can feel when Mr. ZeeTee seduces and pleasures me an all levels imaginable.

I like to feel that Mr. ZeeTee is "in charge", that he wants to take me, to be in me, to come in me, to feel me cum, to enjoy our sexual encounter together.

In short, all this is, for me, the very natural sexual act of "taking" (the man) and "to be taken" (the woman), not based on a "power" element.