First off, great topic guys, this is really a good read, and I would like to offer my perspective on some points...
Being positive in the way we construct our "online" preferences is certainly a very good approach, but the sociological competence of the average 21st century human, dictates otherwise. The general consensus is to consume, replace and consume again, perpetually, so It comes easily to you when stating that you need the "perfect" person with measurements of your preference.... "Consume"
Taking the time to define your most inner desires, and honest feelings, taking care not to offend your suiter, are way too much effort, so an off the shelf "product" is used,
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social media instant sexy).... "Replace"
and as simple as the sunrise, we have the predicament we're in.
There are many underlying issues here, but one that is really hitting me, is the "small guy" one. I too, must shamefully admit, have partaken in this "ritual" of mockery or shaming as you guys say...
not some of my proudest moments
Where does does it come from?
DNA Influence
I can find no, logical explanation, that would dictate a person to have a preference on the height of their potential sexual partners.
just the thought of having some decimal number in my DNA makes me feel robotic...
Social influence
I think this plays a BIG role, and is malleable by us, to a certain degree. Adding this positive form when stating your preferences is a really good start, but against the Social Tsunami out there, not very effective in fighting against discrimination. You would have to start another trend, to change it, but before you could even finish, the next trend will take over..
a pointless endeavor in my opinion
Family influence
If you tighten your mind for a moment to only your blood relatives, or that which you call family. Could it be that we all are creating this size issue ?
Think about it,
was the advice from your mother not "eat all your food so you can grow up to be BIG and strong" ?
didn't your Father tell you that you are a "Big boy" for doing this or that?
This "healthy" competitive spirit, seems to have some side effects.
but now, we are the parents/caretakers, so we can change this, the REAL question is just how?
To me, this is the REAL issue, or the most important part of the problem, and one where we can really make a difference. But to make that change, we need real examples.
How can I, make a difference?
Trying to fight the result of a problem we have created is maybe not the most effective way to solve this issue, so here is a chain-reaction-solution from my far-fetched fantasy mind
Make the woman shorter, to decrease the average definition of "tall", increase the importance of intelectual sexy, to steer away from physical prerequisites and finally remove gender from the table, to promote equality. But for that to happen, we would need to disbann the clothing industry, invent telepathic communication, and figure out how to breed humans without using humans.
If you are thinking of laying a Egg at this moment, we are on the same page
but back to reality...
How can I, make a difference?