Cultural differences in flirting and dating
Dear JoyClub community,in another thread (you can find it here: English ex porn star on here for fun and single ), I once again realized of how different language used when looking for partner s(sex or otherwise) and during flriting is in German compared to other countries I've been to and experienced this.
As "Wir sind Helden" said in ther song "Aurelie":
Aurélie so klappt das nie
Du erwartest viel zu viel
Die Deutschen flirten sehr subtil
(English translation - I made no attempts to put it in words that still match the rhythm and melody: "Aurelie, it won't work that way. You're expecting too much, Germans flirt very subtly")Du erwartest viel zu viel
Die Deutschen flirten sehr subtil
And indeed I can tell: compared to, for example, the USA (using this example because I know enough people there and I've been thhere long enough to tell), while being much less open with their sexuality in general, looking for sex is often way more offensive and direct than what we're used to.
And I've experienced the same when talking to people from other places in the world as well. But I've also heard it the way around, with us being the more "blunt" ones.
In many places, it seems, when looking for a date (both, dating as in "looking for a relationship" as well as dating as in "looking for just sex") seems much more accepted or normal to primarily advertise oneself to "the audience" and stating that you're "here and waiting", without the need to use fancy wording, describe what we're looking for exactly and what we're looking for in partners.
Sure, stating that "I just want to fuck" is fin here just as well, but a personal ad (the fact that "Kontaktanzeige" is called an "ad" reflects the way people receive it quite well I think) centering mostly around what we can bring into a sex date, without introducing us as a person or saying anything about potential partners is usually not very well received. This does not seem to be the case in other cultures.
How do you people feel, German or otherwise, feel about this? Are we, as open as our society is towards alternative livestyles, kinks and sex in general, a little too defensive (and maybe romantic even at times) when looking for sex? Or is that just how we are? And why is that? Or do you completely disagree with my point that there IS a difference?