Is it better to love someone or to be loved by someone

Who is talking about love in this modern days?

It's selfish, but I rather be loved, though I do love to be in

1. Both seem equally horrible.
2. Being loved allows you to let them down easy but still in the end the outcome is hurtful.
3. I think its possible but very rare.

It is painful to love someone who doesn't love you back.

It can be awkward to be loved by someone who you don't love.

it is better to be loved by and to love the same person, although the amounts of this love should probably not be measured. There lies madness.

...why not aiming for the best: to love and being loved...?

Of course the best is when is mutual. Unfortunately very very rare 😢 By me always happend that I'm the one in love... And always finishing with my broken heart. That's why.... now I'm only after nice time together and really good Sex.

...rare? Millions of peoples are loving each other mutually. Maybe you should reconsider the way you are choosing your partners...

Maybe..... I had it once....10 years long. But never happend again

People's feelings change. One day you might love someone, another day you might not. Atleast that's how I feel and have experienced. Hence, I stick to casual encounters or flings.

Be a lovely, lovingly, and loveable person. Then you don't have any of this to worry about

What makes me wonder is that "to love or be loved" also means "to lie or not lie"
There is no shame is losing feelings for someone you speak about it and if this does not resolve you proceed to separate. I do understand people opting for cheating cause eighter way you will get attacked. I say I understand but I do not actually cause being a respectable person is what counts.

So to be loved or love does not matter But being respectful in both ways.

Need u

Wow. Reading this thread made me really sad. So little faith in relationships. So much compromise.

Agreed it is a very complex theme - to quote Howard Jones from decades 'What is love anyway?' Could it be that we just have a wrong understanding of what love is? One of the main challenges I see is EXPECTATIONS. At the risk of sounding cliche, love has to be without expectations. The moment we expect things, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. And yes, of course it's a very idealistic perspective and very tough to achieve, but it means working on yourself first so that you are okay should the other not love you back.

And then perhaps we won't all end up in this spiral of negativity and lack of faith in others.

Someone once told
Me ‘To be loved by someone gives you strength, to love someone gives you courage’. So I’m going to say they’re both important 😉

What is one without the other?
I think there needs to be balance

What a question? I don´t quite get it!

Personaly, I find it a lot harder to be loved.
To much responsibility for my likings.
I´d prefer to love... (even though it hardly happens)

H E A V E N
on
E A R T H

... when this extremly strong feeling is be found on both sides

As a goddess I'll aim for the universe and beyond