How did you find a threesome FFM?

Because women, overall, are more sexually selective.

(Overall, not general.)

Men have less standards.
You are better off finding a single lady then then the two of you can try to introduce a third

Maybe, just maybe because FFM is a predominately male fantasy.
And maybe there are truly not so many bisexual women out there after all...despite of what people think or the porn industry may make us believe.

Most women that I know personally and who are bisexual, do enjoy sex with same gendered people very much, but they also do not necessarily want a man to join them.

Most heterosexual women that I know personally do not fantasize at all about such a threesome. If they do participate in one, they often do this out of favor to their male partner and not really out of desire.

You will see that, despite of Joy being an erotic site, your search for a FFM may take a long time and may never come to tuition.

@*******uder

DEFINETLY I'm not bisexual but I like certain parts at a FFM such as cunnilingus + I want a man involved too.

I can't imagine FF at all. Being a Single no guy but's any "pressure" on me - it's my decision.

@*****eal

As mentioned by others, it's very difficult for men to "find" a couple/individual females to have a FFM/FMF.

SUITABLE guys, which fit my criteria, are difficult to "find" for a MMF/ MFM too.

It's hard enough to find an extra woman to join as a couple, imagine finding 2 women to join a single guy.
Just because you're on an erotic community, doesn't mean all women here are waiting for you to invite them into your bed.
You probably stand a better chance in a bar (when they're permitted to open again), than here, where people know what they want and most of all, what they don't want.

I have a theory the reason most people are not finding the partner or sexual experience they are wanting is that women (in general) are looking for an authentic emotional connection. Whereas men are looking (in general) to meet a physical need.

Well of course, there are always exceptions.
No one completely thinks, feels, lives or has sex alike...nor should they have too.
And just as I wrote in my first commentary ”most women that I know personally”, you should be able too see that I’m definitely not speaking for every woman.

It is not a theory, this is the reality.

Pech für mich, ich hatte noch keinen FFM-Dreier, aber er steht definitiv auf meiner Bucket List.

Man kann nur beten

Was unexpected and became lot of fun..... only I got a little jealous....🤦🏻‍♀️

Nah its mostly about looks and high standards men are less selective. But can't blame them there is so much to choice.

@********icus And yet so many extremely good looking people are single and wanting to feel more than used.

Yes, this is a common perception that rings true to most people.
However, I personally think that a lot of women, contrary to popular believes, don’t necessarily need an emotional connection to have sex with someone.
Some women are just not willing to talk about it, because they do not want to be slut-shamed (which unfortunately still is a thing, even in this day and age).

I personally know and I also have seen plenty of women who can also enjoy having sex without needing a great emotional connection beforehand.
It’s really not that hard, all you need is the right moment, the right person and great chemistry.

What I did find though, some women then fall for the guy they had good sex with and may want a deeper connection with him afterwards.

There are also plenty of men out there that crave an emotional connection and need this connection in order to have sex with someone.

This happens to men as well - but in this case, it's often something men don't openly talk about as they're often perceived less masculine by peers. All glory to dated gender roles!

Social theory alert:
I think women (in general) have been conditioned to believe that they function exactly like men do in all environments and circumstances. This societal conditioning along with moral browbeating has caused many women to ignore their innate feelings, reject their morals and principles to satisfy this false belief that they are equal to their male counterparts.

@*****een or other women have been conditioned to believe that they have higher "morals" than men and do not function as men do and feel completely different about love and sex.

Who's right though?

And here's the thing - do men actually have less feelings, or do they just not communicate them?

This site is still a good place to get to know people looking for new sexual experiences. And when the clubs are able to open again they are also a good chance to not only have new experiences but meet people and network with people who may be able to help you.

Be patient....

I have searched on multiple platforms and have had a decent success rate.
I think what is also important is the way you approach people.

Ofcourse every one want that but first people look later commes the connection imho

Yup in my experience as well, especially woman. I don't understand why though its natural everyone has sex yes we are disgusted to talk or even admit at times we have or want to have it. To be honest i have always thought that feminism was a non issue.
Stil think its pushed to far but I have become to understand it from just being here and observing men has opend my eyes and we should really do better.


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Both IMHO. Feminism has been pushed to far and yet in some cases to little, Of course there are differences but on sexuality we are mostly the same yet a woman says she is horny and she is hymph/slut/ etc. When men say it no one bats an eye.

If you and i are going to contact 200 of the same woman 90% of the time they will choice you. Even if I could write like freaking Shakespeare or something like that.
You have nice body good looks and a healthy "package" from the looks of it. This is biology and perfectly ok we are programmed to pick the best specimen.

I’ve heard a lot of men have the same issue . Most couples I have know have the female find the third person /other woman

I'm always suspicious when it's ONLY one of them searching or reaching out. Typically it's the female, for very simple reasons: It's more difficult for men to find sexual partners and women tend trying to form a friendship-like bond to enhance their success.

I'm not interested in getting physical with a couple when I only get to know one of them.

Thank you.
Although I may agree with you to a point, I still believe that 80% of single men out there do not know how to approach couples. They either come across as pushy, desperate, or just plain weird. This is based on personal experience with a partner.
So sometimes writing like Shakespeare does help