Have you tried Pegging?

I've done it with my wife. She pegging me, that is. This is especially interesting, as we're a BDSM couple with me usually being the Dom. For everyone assuming that pegging would kind of turn our power dynamic upside down, I can assure you: it doesn't. There's nothing submissive in being pegged - especially if you're into anal a lot and it''s done well. It's a thoroughly pleasurable experience.

We're not doing it a lot - for once I have medical issues that prevent me from doing any passive anal at times, but mostly she's not as much into it as I am. Which I can get - she's enjoying it mostly because she can experience me enjoying it, which is obviously nice to see with a partner, but it's less fun than doing things you actively love yourself.


Honestly not much currently. I'm in the very luxurious position to have a partner I can try most things with if either of us is curious about something and the other person isn't actively opposed to it. So if I do get curious about something, I'll convince her to try it.

There's one thing though that I did think about a while ago - being pegged while cuddling. Like, not actively having sex, just basically "cuddling with penetrative background". We do that the way around (with no dildo needed for obvious reasons), and sometimes I feel like I'd also want that. So... maybe we'll try.


What's other peoples motivation to do it? How many people do it out of power dynamics as a power exchange thing, and how many do it "just for fun"? Is it common between lesbian or queer couples, especially if trans people are involved?

Well,
I am so courios about pegging but I never tried.
Actaully I dream a lot bout pegging but I don't knoe if an "ass-virgin" guy is well acceptd by women who want to peg.

Strange in my opinion

May I ask - why's that?

I’m confused.. so is the female Pegging the man while using a dildo ? Unless that pegs vibrating what’s the point of the dildo? It ain’t no dick, real gives you feels am I wrong haha.. ditch the toys ain’t nothing like a real man’s cock, guess I’m not into pegging! What ever it is 🤣

We don't mind popping anal cherries. 😈 In fact, it's on my things to try list but most men are too afraid. In fact, I have had only two guys who actually went through with being pegged and both thought it was more painful than they expected but enjoyed the experience. I was super careful, pre-stretched, and used a lot of lube but they were still sore after.

Usually a female is wearing the strapon, yes, as most men prefer to use their built-in penetration organs. There's "strapless strapons" that are inserted in the vagina, but most are just worn in a harness. Pleasure for the wearer can be a variety of things, but most of them are likely in the mind, and not physical stimulation. However, isn't a lot related to sex actually in our heads and yet plays an important role in our sexuality and pleasure?

No i haven't
i want to though.

I've been fucked with toys, but never with a strapon.
Or a shemale, if she is proper feminine / porno

What i think i like about it is that i can't be dominant and am the one getting fucked.
Wich makes me want it more, i turn proper slutmode even thinking about it lol

@*****pen FYI, the term "shemale" is a derogatory slur. Might still be used in porn occasionally (but becoming rare, there as well, finally) but that's only because it's one of the most left behind areas there is when it comes to sexism and queer awareness.

Well, i did not mean to offend anyone. And you stated the circumstances in wich that context might intend to offend, clearly that is not the case here so lets treat each other like adults and assume that we are all not ill intentional in our doing, untill proven otherwise

I have enjoyed it... I have done it with a few women, but only one was really good at it. When done properly it is an incredible feeling, huge climax and definitely want to experience it more with someone who knows what they are doing

Actually wish I could find someone in Berlin who knows how to peg well.

I use a double dong strap on to double the pleasure but I quickly found out it wasn't a good idea as it wasn't really enjoyable for either of us.

I find that holding the strap on allows for more control and pleasure than wearing the strap on. I usually wear it for show so he can see what I'm going to use to "lightly" destroy his ass but I usually take it off and maneuver it with my hand.

Sort of understand your logic. I enjoy the toys and I also once girl try to use her fist on me, but her hand was way to big, nevertheless, her fingers were pretty magic.

there are tons of pro doms in Berlin who I am certain could fit your needs.

No I am not a pro.
No I am not offering.
Yes, I know that you are seeking the unicorn.

I am not interested in pro doms. I am impromptu go with the flow and am not into a ritualistic game of D/s.

I am not a couple, I am single male who moved to Berlin alone last December and therefore am not seeking a unicorn or a third wheel…

I just seek people that are fun, non judgemental, open minded and emotionally intelligent, who are simply looking to explore and experience mutually pleasurable experiences.

So far, I mostly got that a lot of people are interested in doing it but lack the right partners - and that power dynamics are surprisingly rare of interest. Though rarely any specific background as of why people are interested in pegging were given so far, sadly.

Not everyone works on a power dynamic. Not everyone is acting solely on Domination/submission. Right partner applies to everything, but in this instance it is more about technique for me.

Unless you have explored male anal stimulation and the resulting orgasm, which can be ongoing and shuddering, you probably will never understand.

A lot of men have a preconditioned judgement to being anally stimulated, being it homophobic or an attack on their manhood or being seen as submissive. All is actually absolute nonsense to any man who is intellectually and emotionally evolved and secure.

For those who try it, some may not enjoy the stimulation and choose to not continue with it further or they are hooked.

If one’s mindset is more primitively focussed on Power, and I have watched this in clubs, it comes across to me somewhat closed minded. I am not suggesting this is the case with you as I don’t know you.

For me, everything is about the giving and receiving of pleasure and be it I am naturally a Dominant personality, I seek anal stimulation for pleasure and it has nothing to do with D/s. That said, If the person I am with enjoys the power of it, that is fine with me, as I know who I am and am comfortable giving for her pleasure.

I doubt it can be explained to you if you have never explored anal stimulation on yourself and maybe you should investigate that first.

@*****SFX you might've missed my first post in this thread, as you seem to be unaware of the Information about myself I've given there.

However, besides that, I mostly agree with you and thank you for your view on it!

Yes, Agree with your original post. But I don’t agree it turns any power dynamic upside down, the same as one could say, anytime you penetrate a Dominatrix she is submitting. Power Dynamic is a structure that occurs naturally, and there is often a give and take even in the most extreme of D/s relationships. It would be boring if there were not. And yes, there are those who are rigid and that can work for them.

To be a good Dom, you need empathy and that can only come from experience, which includes exploring the other side. We drift back and forth. I don’t tend to be one that is big on terms as I don’t fit into a box, nor do I want to. For some that makes me persona non grata and that is fine for me. I am never the same with two women and that is the greatest pleasure of being with different people. They bring different parts of you to life.

Where I am going with this is that in any relationship, the only people who determine the power dynamic are the two people involved. And this should never be determined by text books, terminology or other people’s judgement.

In reality both parties in the D/s relationship have the power, it is just a different power. There is equal power in giving as there is in receiving and this is vastly overlooked. Power balance must be equal or it is abuse.

The situation, "the act", is interpreted by the observer.
Pegging is often viewed ambiguously by the observer.
The dynamics that produce an "image" are unknown until the act / situation in its entirety is understood.
What we see can be the result of very different logics from what we think on the basis of our experiences.
For example, if one seeks only pleasure, "the maximum orgasm", without further chasing, sodomy is only the attempt to obtain more pleasure, not the act of a power game.

I kinda said the same thing though


So I actually think we're mostly on the same page here.

I would disagree on the entire "who has which power in a D/s dynamic" but that's an entirely different topic.

This is a great question, because it reveals so many biases. I HAVEN'T been pegged, but mostly because it simply never came up. I'd like to, because who doesn't want all their genitals stimulated?? There's no reason to assign a power dynamic or sexual preference to the situation. It's all about everyone getting to do everything. I'd love to get pegged. I like anal stimulation, and I like exploring boundaries. So, having my partner fuck me in the ass? Sure! We can take turns. And go down on one another. And have conventional sex. And do anything else that suits our interests. Pegging shouldn't be seen as anything "special".