Aware of all of this, but some women are not as tight as others regardless of all of the above. Genetics are more to play than arousal or kegels. For me, Penetration is not central to the journey and it is the entire discovery and exploration of the woman that is the attraction for me. I don’t worry about size etc, probably because I am secure about my sexuality and the equipment I have. I just find the whole size focus amusing, as I conclude they are not interested in what gets you to the penetration, which in my experience, is far more powerful. If only the size is the central focus, emotional intelligence and the erotic journey are not the focus. I remember meeting a lovely girl who loved gang bangs, and she asked me why I did not join in> to which I responded, maybe one day I will, but I enjoy reading her body’s reactions so as to push in a direction, which I cannot do if there is 5 other guys also fucking her. I accept that is her go to and it just is not mine. It’s okay to like someone and not be the right peg or they are not the right hole for you.