He or She initiate the swinger journey?

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Hi Infusion69,
It seems most are not so interested in your thread topic and your question
Anyway, for us it was the Mrs who suggested us checking the way and possibility of some sort of swinging, with background in her wanting to try sex with another lady. Hubby is happy with Wife doing so, but it has been challenging to find someone to hook up with where we are.
We have been investigating swinger clubs, but became a bit overwhelmed by this as a start. Hence we were happy when we found and learnt about Joyclub, and hope this can now be a way in to the lifestyle, both for Her and for Him

I feel there is a better journey if it is initiated by the woman, which means that she is 100% open and comfortable. Therefore the man is going to be that as well- natural consequence.

For us its a bit of both. I (the man) suggested at first to go to a swinger club while we were on a small vacation. We both agreed to just visit and watch for the first time, because none of us have ever been to a swingers club before that. So after we spent the night at first my girlfriend was not sure about the atmosphere and didn't like it that much. I didn't say much because I thought it would be just a one time thing we did together. But the next day she started to reminisce about the previous day and said that she liked swingers club better than normal clubs and she wanted to explore more. Thats how we became regular at swinging