Why are more people into kink than tantra?

Good question! BDSM seems to be more publicly understood. Tantra is a very deep but vague term, most people may not know it or do not dare to find out more...I think it needs maturity and patience to explore tantra. For me, I may be ready to do it now, after a very long journey of BDSM!

I’ve discovered that lots of people write in Kink and BDSM but only like the idea and never been down that path. Recently I’ve asked a few times ‘you say you’re into kink, what is your kink’ and got answers along the lines of ‘I don’t really have one but I’m interested…’ or ‘I wrote that to get attention…’ 😬

And finding a BDSM event is far easier than a Tantra event with people that fit your vibe. You can go to a BDSM event and just watch and say your into it but can’t really do that with Tantra 🤣🤣🤣

To me,
Kink is the best to unleash the lustful side of an individual
Tantra is the connection between the body and soul

To me BDSM is purely sexual whilst tantra is a life decision.

Tantra was a life decision in the old society.
In the modern open-minded ENM society, tantra could be integrated into connecting deeply between individuals with conscience mindset. But very ego-challenging and most individuals don’t seem to be ready for that yet.

I am a man of my words, easy to communicate with and easy to get alone.. I am seeking for that special woman to spend same good times and create good memories. Let me know your interest.

Can only speak for myself.

BDSM was always interesting, appealing with clear communication.

Anything tantric always turned me off from the beginning to be honest.

Tantra, from how I understood it, is more or less always connected to sex, which is something I'm not into.
BDSM is a lot more about playing around and exploring other interesting dynamics to me.

I think Kink is just a much wider term.
Even if we just talk BDSM from daddy kink to spanking to petplay to shibari to latex and femdom there is such a varity of things that can be called BDSM, Tantra is more specific. Also there is a differen culture around BDSM with munches in almost every city, so it is very much a social thing as well.
But even if Tantra is more sepcific and thus has a more defiende audience, that does not make community around Tantra less valuable or interesting. Just different structures.

Hey! I'm a specialist in this subject and shall allow myself a long reply.
Kudos to everyone who's managed to read.
And apologies in case some triggers were pulled.

I'm so sorry to read this
because it's such a common misconception
leading to fear and avoidance of proceeding with gaining knowledge.

Tantra is not directly connected to sex.

It's a spiritual practice based on LIFE FORCE aka vitality and LOVE.

Sex is part of love for sure, but so are consciousness
and dedication
and devotion
and intentions, emotions
and oh so much more..!

That's the problem with modern Neo tantra:
it's very badly marketed by people
who basically make freedom-sex-festivals (so to say)
calling them tantra,
having no clue about the depth and the philosophy
of the actual Teaching...

It's very sad.
It's not the way it should go nor develop,
but people are people and did the same with the philosophy of Love Jesus taught.
(It's too deep and complex to discuss here yet it's a truly relevant analogy.)

However,
Tantra is not directly connected to sex per say
but rather connects YOU to YOUR OWN sexual / creative energy.

Sexuality and creativity walk hand in hand together.

In essence,
this is a sacred unity of polarities which aren't even polarities.
They are one.
But alas, in human perception
there is a division
due to fear
and the initial trauma of disconnectedness.

And Tantra teaches the connectedness. That's it.

It truly takes long years of practice and multiple initiations by Masters
for one to actually grasp the whole image,
and even then... it varnishes.

It's a martial art
where what you do is
constantly catch yourself
with your own attention,
like wind.

So bare with me when I say a regular neo-tantric-workshop
can teach you nothing truly divine.
I might be wrong but this is the experience I see we share here.

I've been to bdsm festivals and tantra festivals,
I do and teach yoga
and have a say:
Tibetan Buddhist tantras and Tantra presented as it is in the mainstream
are as different, as the colours red and black.

Blessed be those who've seen and could recognise true love
and expansion and have met themselves to recognise this.



A MYSTIC PATH like tantra
requires dedication
to the process of self acknowledgement.

It's yoga and energy management,
lifestyle.

Rushed breath-work and eye-gazing,
sexual touch and "connect with each other in 5 minutes" kind of mantra
is not tantra.

Whatever else "tantra" teachers of the modern days are preaching,
leads people to where they're ready to be. And if it's "just sex without the love aspect",
well, so be it.

Perhaps, that's what you've encountered? Tell me more if you can/care to.

"Knowing thyself" is becoming possible when actual Tantra happens.

The Teaching offers this precision,
and yet it is given only to those who are initiated
with specific awareness techniques and take vows to spread it consciously. Or shut up about it and simply practise at home.
It's done to keep the lineage protected.
Tantra is a very conservative tradition.

The rest is capitalism and marketing and emotional drainage
of those who actually seek Knowledge
yet get caught in the nets of quick pleasures and promises.

Be careful and may you be blessed with an encounter with a
grand master who consciously spreads the Teaching of Tantra.
Confront those who preach bullshit.

And love upon all!

Thank you @****enx for the professional inside view. There is A LOT to the term indeed, what the lay person would not know...Deep!

@****enx
Thank you for a deeper and wider explanation about Tantra.

Tantra philosophy and techniques can’t be learned or integrated easily through half-baked money-oriented scam workshops.

Spreading these techniques easily to anyone would be like giving a Pandora box to the general population. It’s doubled edged and not advisable either.