Do You Have the Same Problem?

Actually it is very common theme here. We have our personal experience and have heard from many many friends same in last 6 years. To be honest people are very much unreliable here. Even if they fix date then last minute cancelation chances are very high. And you will laugh about excuses

Hey there
We absolutely are making same experience. Guess in Switzerland and Germany it isn’t that easy. Specially if the couple or one part of couple doesn’t speak German and we would like to communicate in English. Always from new surprised that so many German speaking people can’t or don’t want to speak English…

We have the exact same issue. It's ironic when they are the ones that like you first, then you do the same, and/or reach out, you either get ignored and/or they unlike you. . We do our best to speak German, are willing to use a translator app. I just don't get it. Besides, if the vibe is there who needs to speak?

Profiles should have ratings - so we know who are only tyre kickers....

We have been in this for awhile and what you are saying is correct. You have several types of people on here. People who are actually serious in the lifestyle, people who are curious, people who are looking to start problems and people who are bored. Regrettably most are in the latter category. In the beginning we did do dates and quickly realized many people are full of it and time wasters or have serious problems or mental issues.

So we came to the conclusion better to meet people at a house party or club. Spend that money and at least you have some chance of a good evening. We personally stopped answering club mail because one it felt like mass writing. People just writing just for the hell of it. Many times you have people cat fishing which is really bad. Our personal experience is the people who don’t want to go to a club or even easier a house party too 95% are not serious at all about who they are and what they want. This lifestyle is not always about sex and we have friends we are great with but never had sex with. This lifestyle is about being comfortable and hey for us if you can’t even go to a normal sauna and are worried about being naked in front of another group you ain’t at that level yet.

You have to be very careful we know people us included who the date was a reporter or some writer looking for dirt or even disgruntled partners who found their partners activity. Fake rarely want to be in a group setting and they definitely don’t want to get naked.

Brian here with amanti26, yeah your all good looking couples posting here, i certiantly dont see an issue. Let us know if your near the Zweibrücken, Germany area. Lets trade stories! 😁🤣🤣🤣

Hey all, one thing we had to learn here is just don’t take it too serious.
You won’t find plenty of couples fitting to you (sympathy..)
Some are looking for the fast fuck, some men are here to just enjoy some pictures and enjoy and a little number are seriously looking for what we are looking for.
We are here for 11 month I think and met sone couples (all lovely people) but didn’t klick on our side.
We stay positive and curious.. Tine will show.
We did not face any issues due to English so far.
Cheers and maybe we once organize an English speaking dinner evening + all options open…

Hey,

Thanks for sharing this problem, we feel seen! We are here a little bit over 2 years and so far had only 3 dates and I cannot remember how many talks with couples and singles. Mission impossible!

Last month we have finally managed to go to a club and it was worth it.
You should definitely try it. It is expensive, but you get an experience that you do not see it normally. Also a lot of the people are meeting there more, so it is a good choice. See it as a hobby that you have to pay for. Maybe once in 3 months is good, if you are lucky

We are one of the few that also do not like yet the pressure you can have in a club or a party. On the other side, we have met nice couples for a dinner in a normal restaurant, a drink in a bar or just a walk around. From there more has happened, the same day but more often in another occation. Some people, especially new people in this life style like it slow. I must admit that the work to be done beforehand to understand the people that makes sense to meet is huge, just to have maybe a drink together. There are a lot of timewaster as described and thats why people prefer clubs. We prefer to build relationships in a different way. It is possible and the hard work can be rewarded

We’ve never really had much success in a club to achieve what we want.

For those that have had regular positive experiences in Clubs but also private Dates, is there a difference in the type of sex you have between the two?

We now can’t imagine having the type of sex we have over a longer 4-6 hour private date, in a club.

We like everything Going to clubs, big parties, small private parties or private dates. Everything has its own flavor. More than 6 years of journey here on JoyClub I can say we had 10% of success in private dates. Most of the time it gets cancelled at the last minute. This is true too much time, energy and efforts get wasted in arranging private dates. People are not serious. Sometimes you don't find the right match in clubs too, but mostly it works.

We are not a commercial organizer. We do it because we love it. We just love this lifestyle. We have ourselves lots of fun in our own events. As an event organizer also, I can tell you people are not at all reliable in this scene.

I am an English speaker, that's why I created this group to connect like-minded people and time to time organizing events too for English speakers. Now I can manage in German too, but I have experienced language difficulties too.

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If the date suits us, we will be up to join you guys.

Yes. We're definitely able to come to Stuttgart if the timing is right. Would prefer a Saturday since we have to travel. Thanks again for the post