English ex porn star on here for fun and single

In case you are actually hoping for any female to reply to this, I advise you to do some research on German flirting and dating behaviour. We're used to be a lot (and I mean A LOT) less blunt usually - even if we're only looking for sex. Therefore, your posts on here tend to come off as slightly aggressive, egocentic and generic.

Not my problem though - just trying to be helpful but really, you do you.

Dude - did you look at his profile...? He's clearly a bull alpha male type of guy and isn't pretending anything otherwise. He is who he is - and there will be plenty of women and cucks who are totally into it. I also don't this forum is a place for moralising and/or judgements about other people's lifestyle choices. Live and let live...

I did look at his profile. But neither did I judge him, nor did I at any point doubt that what he's writing is authentic. I can just tell from experience, that this kind of offer, using the langauge he uses, is not very successfull with females. It might with cucky couples, I don't have any experience there, but he IS looking for single women as well. And that is the only thing I was referring to.

Also, as you seem to come from another culture but the German one as well, as far as I can tell from your profile, please just trust me when I say that I mean what I wrote: us Germans, as open as we may culturally be in regards to sex, are very, very conservative in communicating this, even on dating platforms.

Really interesting points from @*****alS.
Maybe I should search how Germans communicate about sex

Just to be clear: talking about sex is fine, and being explicit is ok. If it's a conversation ABOUT sex - NOT an attempt to HAVE sex. With the latter, it's fine to be direct and straightforward - if you just want sex, you can say so. But very offensive wording is usually not well-received. Especially advertising oness phyiscal traits and not at all mentioning what we're looking for in others is often problematic.

But: this is all not really on topic here. If somebody is interested in discussing cultural differences in flriting and sexting though, I'm all down - just in a seperated, dedicated thread.

It's what I saiid.


It's not a Pokemon, it's a fox. And I don't wear it for any "bitches", I just like to be cozy at home. It's from Corimori (https://corimori.de/en/) - just for the rare case you're actually curious.

Dear DreimalS,
Thanks for your valuable input in how to communicate with German women you are interested in having sex with. I’m from an other culture where we are very direct and I would really like guidance about this; also if there is a difference in different parts of Germany and Switzerland?
I would love if you could open a thread on this topic.
Best wishes, Arthur

I opened such thread. Y'all can find it here, once published: Cultural differences in flirting and dating

Now it´s published Cultural differences in flirting and dating



Best regards
xxxotb
JOY-Team

Oh no. It appears our comment is gone. Was it too positive?

All we wanted to do was give him compliments.

Because wow, what an incredible dick.

It's amazing how well you take criticism. After those three posts, I actually tend to agree with you: this might not be the platform you were looking for.

As a last attempt though: you'll notice you'll move much easier through JoyClub if you stick to the community guide: https://www.joyclub.de/hilfe/community_guidelines.html - and the same actually goes for Sensualitease.

a) You're not in a group but the public forum. Only way to delete yourself from here is by cancelling your account.

b) If in a group, you can leave any group at any point by yourself. Go here: My groups , click on the setitngs button below the group you want to leave (That's the grey button with the cogwheel, in case it's not localized), and then click on the lowermost red button that says "Austreten" (if not localized, should say "Leave" or somthing simimlar if it is). Done.

Wow..... I.......What....errr. IS it a choice or something? That at birth you get a choice: Brains or Body?

This type is exactly what we where talking about in: What is your experience with "why"?

And I now understand the Dickpicks discussed in Follow Up on why A counter perspective.
Never realized one can be that braindead. So in Away this was very interesting and sickening at the same time.

As a native German female ,I just have to give my input here- so here it is in general: what the fuck do guys know about how we want to be approached anyhow
As for bluntness, here is my truth:

I love it English, but naturally the guy has to be able to pull it off. I think singlefunmale can, because it is in his JC name, please be fun do not take me so seriously as to make a big discussion out of this....
As for dick pics, I prefer the real thing, mostly because I cannot taste or smell a pic- so it is irrelevant to me. I can work with any size and shape if it tastes and smells appealing, so that just might be a wasted effort - unless it is really awesome.. Funguy gives a fair warning so then the pics won't be uninvited as everybody knows what they are getting into. This of course is totally different from suddenly having a dic staring at the while in the middle of a discussion about the economic crisis in Italy, f.excample. That is just creepy. In any case, as mentioned above if you send me dic pic make sure it is an awesome specimen....

As for direct fucklanguage in German: Here it is kind of true what DreimalS mentioned. You usually do not come out that forward. To me that is mostly due to the German language. The intonation most of the time really takes the sexual kick out of it. Plus most fuck-words are very sexist and come across derogatory. Just think about "nipple" that would be Brustwarze or "breast wart" in German- who wants to hear that ..?? Or "Fotze" for mushi, "Fotze" in intonation alone I find horrible .. and the word is frequently used by German men to insult girls "Du Alte Fotze" ..outside any sexual context. So bales it on he German men who really took the fun out of that one. American women really have managed to make the word "cunt" into an expression of self-respecting pride...and yes, I personally prefer to be a cunt than bitch.. or even whore, because a cunt has the special do not fuck with me attitude.. well before I go on babbling here,

may I just ask:

Please do not start discussing what German like or not like without consulting them..it really takes all credibility out of the discussion!
Please do respect the freedom of expression for all members of JC as long as they don't do anything illegal or abusive...!

Susanne
Cunt, whore, bitch whatever you choose but please not Fotze..

As a native German woman may I just ask you not to speak for all German women? Because while you might like it, as you said it's just not what is regarded as polite in Germany. And to be fair, that is the only thing @*****alS said - it's not how you usually communicate here. Nothing more, nothing less.
So while of course there will always be people who enjoy it, there are still a lot of people who feel this style of communication is offensive (as in blunt or in German "aufdringlich").
And I, personally, think it's perfectly fine to help people who might just not be accustomed to German flirting culture. I mean, how else could you know what's largely regarded as ok?

@*******ana I never claimed to speak for all German women . If you read carefully I spoke of my truth not a generalized one and asked to include German women into the discussion.. I also did speak of the difference in language culture.. Another of my truths is that men discussing the feelings of women especially those of a different culture reverberates antiquated patriarchal attitudes reminiscent of colonialist arrogance - this discussion could have been so much different if it started with an open question as in “how do you women feel about this” rather than an androcentric omnipotent statement.. again this is just my personal opinion - my truth

@*********rlust
Tbh I thought this is what you were saying at first. But it just made no sense at all this way - you don't know about @*****alS' cultural background, nor about how many German women he talked about this with.
This is why I figured you tried to speak for all German women, because otherwise your post would just consist of falsely accusing someone.

Also I'm not sure why in this case it would be necessary to include German women - the OP was looking for someone to fuck and someone suggested he MIGHT have better luck with different wording. Of course there are always exceptions - like yourself, if I understood you correctly (which btw is totally fine, it's just not 'common'). Nobody tried to strip you of enjoying this kind of communication, he just offered advice on how to 'generally' flirt in German.

Although I did live in the USA for 8 years I will make no comment on American women... but as a Born and bred Aussie male, I would advise against using the "C" word to describe yourself or another woman when conversing with other Australians. In Australian English it would be considered just as offensive or more so than your description of "Fotze", and definitely in no way "an expression of self-respecting pride".

But we digress......