A prostate massage? What's that supposed to be?! It’s simple: Men also have a G-spot – the prostate! As for the ladies, the massage of this "male G-spot" (also called "P-spot") can ensure incredible orgasms. We'll show you how a prostate massage works.
How to prepare yourself for a prostate massage:
Step 1: The right position
Relaxation is important for a prostate massage. Lie down on your side and bend your knees slightly. You could also lie on your belly or bend forward in a kneeling position. Just try out how to best reach your anus without performing acrobatic tricks.
Step 2: Sufficient stretching
To make the prostate massage as pleasant as possible, you need to stretch your sphincter sufficiently. The easiest way to do this is by using your fingers. First, carefully insert one finger and move it around. If you feel comfortable, you can add a second finger. Now lightly spread both fingers apart and stretch your sphincter muscle repeatedly.
Step 3: Avoiding injuries
Whether you’re using your fingers or a sex toy: A lubricant or a little saliva not only facilitates insertion, but also reduces friction or scratches. If you use your fingers, make sure to keep your fingernails short to minimalize the risk of injury. If you are concerned about hygiene, you can also use disposable gloves, finger cots or condoms for the prostate massage.
This is how prostate massages work
Carefully insert your middle finger into the anus and bend it in the direction of your belly. Once you have found the prostate, you can begin the massage.
Where's the prostate?
The prostate is about the size of a chestnut and lies 6 to 8 centimetres behind the sphincter muscle. You can find your prostate more easily when you're aroused (a little "pre-masturbation" might help). During arousal, the prostate becomes bigger and harder and you can clearly identify it with your finger. In addition, you will quickly notice that touch feels particularly great on this spot.
Try out different techniques for prostate massage
- Rubbing: Bend your finger joint, so that your finger makes a "come here"-movement.
- Circling: Circle around the prostate while exerting light pressure at the same time.
- Ringing the bell: Press lightly on the prostate and then let go again.
- Twirling: Can you stretch your sphincter muscle enough to fit both your index and middle finger? Then you can gently hold the prostate between your fingers and massage it from both sides at the same time.
Practice to reach multiple orgasms
You may already experience great feelings during your first prostate massage. However, it will probably take a little training until you’re able to reach an orgasm. It’s worth it, though – once you master it, you might even enjoy multiple waves of orgasm.
Don't be surprised: With prostate massage, you typically have no or only a very slight erection. During orgasm, the semen is usually not ejected, but flows out slowly.
You can change the type and quality of your orgasm
... if you increase the speed at the right moment and push your finger(s) inside instead of just massaging. You can also stimulate the prostate from the outside by gently stroking and massaging the perineum (the area between your testicles and the anus).
There’s also a variety of special prostate stimulation devices such as butt plugs and anal dildos. Some of those sex toys have a suction foot so that you can attach them to a smooth surface. Make sure to start with smaller toys, as the anus needs to be stretched slowly and carefully.
Tip: Prostate massages as a part of lovemaking
Prostate massages aren’t only fun on your own, they can also be great for couples. It can be a wonderful experience for you and your partner and enrich your sex life. Even if your partner doesn't dare giving you a prostate massage right away, it might give both of you a lot of pleasure if they indulge you with a blowjob while stroking or massaging the area around your anus with their finger or a dildo at the same time.
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