Swinger

Is your first time at a Swinger club coming up and you're a little nervous? You're not alone, it was once the first time for all of us. You will enter a world full of eroticism, fantasy and endless possibilities. The most important thing as a swinger: Anything's possible, nothing's a must!

What is a swingers club anyway?

The term "swinger" comes from the the word "to swing" and quite literally means to move back and forth. The term was established in the 20th century for people who either flaunted their sexuality or became active with different partners.

In swinger clubs there is usually a very special, tingling atmosphere that quickly makes you forget about your everyday life.

©JOYclub, Swingerclub Saphir

Swingers, however, are not only couples (who accordingly do not live monogamously), but also singles who consciously want to have a little fun. Since the motto for swingers is "anything's possible and nothing's a must", sex is never compulsory.

At a swinger meeting or in a swinger club, anything can happen, but it can also remain a mere visit. You alone decide whether for you swinger clubs and sex belong together or whether you, as a swinger, just want to have a look around in the club.

Which swinger club should it be?

Looking for the right swinger haven to try for a night out? Maybe you're already an avid swinger and want to expand your horizons and meet new, open-minded people? When searching for a swinger club, you will find countless offers. There are specialised establishments for certain target groups or locations for larger groups of people - with or without theme parties. A distinction is primarily made between these two groups.

• Couples' club: Only couples are admitted to this club. The couples' club offers an erotic atmosphere for partner swapping outside of your own four walls or a hotel. When swinging as a couple, sex is not compulsory. You two do not have to sleep together or invite a third or fourth person to join. Swapping partners is not a must either. If you are interested in swinging, you can simply visit the clubs and explore them without any obligations. This way you can find out if the swinging life suits your relationship.
• Club for couples and singles: As an alternative to the couples-only club, there are swinger clubs that also admit singles. This applies to both men and women.

Apart from these distinctions, there are specialised swinger clubs. For example, there are clubs for different colours. In addition, there are also many organisers who initiate events that are not tied to a specific location and who rent out swinger clubs as well as conventional party locations. A nudist swinger club, on the other hand, focuses on naked eroticism. Here, at least, you don't have to worry about the perfect outfit at the swinger club. The aim is to make the swinger club party you imagine for yourself possible through the diverse offers.

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Meet a swinger online

Once you have decided on a suitable swinger club that you would like to visit, you once again have a choice. Would you like to go to the club alone, together with your partner or friends, or perhaps with a complete stranger? You can meet swingers at JOYclub and arrange a date for an evening at a club in advance. This way you can make a direct connection, but of course you don't have to worry about being obliged to do anything as a result of the contact.

The first hurdle - finding a swinger club

Before entering the world of swingers for the first time, you have to master the arrival. At first glance, swinger clubs are not always immediately recognisable, as the club is usually only discreetly lit and has no evident outdoor advertising. In many cases you have to ring the bell or are expected at reception.

Newcomers are usually given a short tour so that you feel comfortable right away. You will be told where you can change and what rooms await you. In many clubs you will be given a locker key and can get yourself ready for the evening in a changing room. Cleanliness is one of the most important features in swinger clubs, which is why in many establishments showering is mandatory before entering the premises.

Mandatory swinger club rules

For you as a swinger, it is important to know the house rules of the club. These can usually be found on the provider's website. With any reputable club provider, the most important rule relates to consent. The word "no" means "no" and is accepted in any case.

Another very common rule is showering beforehand and the use of condoms. Many swinger clubs prohibit smoking indoors and only allow it in smoking rooms or outdoor areas. There are also areas for food and drinks outside the mats and play areas. You should always take a look at the club's rules before your first visit so that there are no nasty surprises.

The etiquette rules for swingers

Let's move on to the lesser-known "rules" for swingers that aren't even described as rules most of the time . They are unwritten laws, a kind of etiquette, that apply equally to almost all swinger clubs. Think of these tips as golden rules in swinger clubs that will make the evening all the more enjoyable for you and the other guests.

Swinger clubs usually have lockable private rooms where you can spend quality time with one or more people.

©JOYclub, Swingerclub Palermo

• No means no: The most important swinger club rule is "no". Every guest has to accept this no and should politely back out after the first "no".
• Use condoms: Although it is not an "official" rule, it should be a matter of course for you to use condoms when having fun with new partners. Condoms are usually available free of charge in clubs.
• Care for hygiene: Not only showering beforehand is standard for a swinger, but also hygiene on the mats and in the play areas. Discreetly dispose of used condoms or wipes in the waste baskets, which are usually provided in the immediate vicinity of the mats.
• Separate areas: Although you can feel comfortable and enjoy yourself as a swinger all around, there are still separate areas. Most swinger clubs prohibit smoking, eating and drinking in the play areas. There are separate zones for this. However, this rule may also apply the other way round. Depending on the establishment, sex is usually not allowed at the bar or in the dining area - exceptions may be granted for certain theme nights, however.


• Couple areas without singles: Depending on the location, there are separate areas for couples. Singles are not allowed here and if you are single yourself, you should stick to this for everyone's enjoyment. If you have received an explicit invitation from the couple, you can of course also enter the couples' area as a solo guest.
• In many establishments, strict swinger club rules apply so that you can feel safe and comfortable at all times. Drugs, as well as professional escorts usually, are absolutely taboo. Since alcohol is served, it is in the eye of the beholder how much a guest can take. However, if a swinger is drunk and attracts attention, the operator will gently ask them to leave.
• Food and drinks in moderation: Although food and most drinks are usually included in the swinger club, you should never deliberately take advantage of this fact. Drunk guests will be expelled from the club and if you have filled your stomach too much, this may also have a negative effect on your evening. Enjoy the offers in moderation and have fun doing it.
• What happens in the club stays in the club: The last rule is particularly important because it is equally relevant to all swingers. What happens in a swinger club stays there. Refrain from exchanging private numbers or personal data in general. Instead, you can network with the Joyclub profiles if you want to meet again (privately or in the club).

In a swinger club, condoms and disinfectants are usually available free of charge.

©JOYclub, Swingerclub Palermo

The swinger club procedure explained quickly

You've found a suitable club and got an idea of the typical etiquette rules? Perfect, now it's finally time to get started. Maybe you want to know what the typical procedure in a swinger club looks like. As always, there is of course no standard procedure, as every club and every guest is different. Nevertheless, there are a few elements of a visit to a club that are always repeated and can therefore be described as a procedure.

• In the first step, find a suitable swinger club that suits your ideas.
• Think about whether you want to visit the club alone or together with friends or strangers.
• Look for suitable clothing that you feel comfortable in. For women, nice lingerie is recommended, whereas most men feel comfortable in tight-fitting underwear. Find out about the rules of your chosen swinger club so that you are well prepared for the evening.
• In said evening, travel to the swinger club - either in your own car (if you don't drink), a taxi or (if available) public transport.
• Ring the bell at the entrance or, depending on the club, guests may already be expected at a reception point (especially at larger theme parties).
• If you are in the club for the first time, you will usually be shown around.
• You can put on your swinger outfit in the changing area. Make sure to have a quick shower before.

The following procedure is individual and always depends on you, the guests and the respective club. Maybe you'd like to go to the bar first and order a sparkling wine to loosen up or another drink of your choice. You may also want to take a look around on your own and get to know the rooms without a guide.

Normally, guests are still very reserved on their first visit. They observe, enjoy the music and the ambience. With a little openness and looseness, you are sure to quickly strike up a conversation (especially at the bar or in an outdoor area) or dance on the dance floor with an erotically interested partner.

What happens afterwards - that's anybody's guess! The most important thing is that everyone has fun!

Sex as a swinger - do I even have to?

Let's get to the pleasure of being a swinger. You're out and about in the club, looking around, intrigued. There are good-humoured, sensual and attractive people present and you think about what to do next. Do I have to have sex at all? How does it work? The motto here is: anything can happen and nothing has to. This motto is indeed the most important thing you should take to heart. There are absolutely no rules or regulations when it comes to the erotic part. You decide for yourself what you feel like doing - provided it complies with the rules of the club.

Get started with these tips for swingers

Sitting at the bar, looking around and not quite sure how to get started with someone interesting? Always try a casual conversation first. It generally helps if you are open as a swinger. If you only observe and remain silent, you will have less success. Then again, of course, you should not be pushy either.

Indulging in voyeurism at a swinger club

Do you prefer to watch? You can live that out in a swinger location without any problems and, depending on the situation, also get started on yourself. Who knows, maybe a lady, a gentleman or a couple will even invite you to enjoy some time together. If you are watching, stay discreet and refrain from making loud comments. This could disturb the other guests. You can express your interest by politely asking if you can join in. Even a single attempt to caress a partner is fine. However, if you hear a "no" or your hand is pushed away, politely accept this.

This playground with glory hole wall and interrogation room mirror has room for about twenty people. And for even more voyeurs.

©JOYclub, Swingerclub Palermo

Anything you like is allowed

As long as your fantasies conform to the rules of the club, everything is allowed - in fact, everything you like and with whom you like it. It doesn't matter whether you want to have fun in pairs, threesomes, in foursomes or in a larger group. No one is forced to join in. Some couples enjoy the atmosphere with a few spectators, other couples change partners but deliberately do so without any other guests.

The perfect outfit as a swinger

Aspiring swingers often have no idea what outfits are worn at a swinger club. How erotic should it be and how naked is it allowed be? These are all questions that both ladies and gentlemen ask themselves. JOYclub has the right answers for you.

• Erotic clothing for ladies: Ladies should feel comfortable in their clothes. Your breasts can be completely free or half-covered, it all depends on your taste. Frivolous nightwear, corsets and swinger lingerie are well suited. However, depending on how racy your evening is, a lot of laces on your clothes can be a hindrance. You could also try a catsuit here.
• Erotic clothing for men: For men, sexy clothing is a little more difficult. Fine ribs, towels and tiger thongs are frowned upon or even banned in most clubs and by many swingers. Tight-fitting boxer shorts, tight shirts or even mesh shirts are better.

Although these are a few initial tips for you, the same applies here - you have to feel comfortable! You alone decide what you feel sexy in and what you want to wear to live out your eroticism. You have to comply with the dress code of the establishment, but the rest is completely up to you.

And which shoes for the perfect outfit?

The problem with many swingers' outfits is often the shoes. You shouldn't be out and about barefoot. Bathing slippers are also taboo for swinger club outfits. Basically, anything that suits you and your swinger outfit is allowed. How about high heels that can be opened and taken off quickly if necessary? As a man, you can go for sneakers or even boots if it suits your outfit.

Become a swinger and experience pure eroticism

You're interested in the world of swingers and would like to visit a swinger club or a private swingers' meeting yourself? Then we hope to have prepared you well for your first adventure. In general, JOYclub is there to help and advise you whenever you have questions. Find like-minded people, relax and get informed - this is the right place for you!